The online dating world can be pretty complex!
It’s hard deciding on what to add to your online dating profile but then once you are good to go and the messages start coming in, it can be overwhelming. A lot of people don’t know where to begin.
There are many resources on dating that suggest what you should and shouldn’t talk about when first getting to know someone.
5 Important Things To Consider When Building A Relationship
1. Being In A Relationship With Someone Who Has Kids
This is a pretty big consideration.
First, if you have children would you date someone who doesn’t have children?
The pros in dating someone without children are present if you want a partner who is more available and more likely to put you first in their life.
You also don’t have to worry about the added stressors such as:
- Getting along with your partners children
- Your children getting along with your partners children
If you want more children, dating someone without gives you a higher chance of being able to have more kiddos in the future.
For those without children who would consider dating someone with children the key is to be selfless not selfish.
If you’re a selfish person, it will be hard for you to adjust to your partners attention being divided. As well, if you want children someone who already has children might not want any more.
These factors should be established early on when getting to know someone.
Child Custody can be an issue as well. This statement is especially true if your child access schedule is opposite of your partners.
Depending on how set in stone your schedules are, it can make things hard when you are trying to get to know someone and not ready to introduce your partner to your children and vice versa.
2. Work Schedule & Commuting
Just as child custody schedules are important, so is your work schedule.
For example; if you work nights and he/she works days at what point will you be able to see each other?
For those who work a lot of hours, often when there are children involved, you’ll find that these potential partners use their days off to see their kids which makes it hard to find time to get to know each other.
Travel & Commuting can complicate things too. Unless you’ve done it yourself, it is hard to relate to the tiredness one can feel if they have a job that takes them on the road.
If you consider dating someone who has a profession that involves a lot of commuting and/or travel you have to be honest with yourself and say “can I handle their tiredness and will I understand the toll it can have on them?”
3. Religion Differences In A Relationship
Are you religious? How important is your religion to you if you are? How important is it that your partner is religious? Do they have to share the same religious beliefs as you?
If you are prepared to date someone who has a different religious belief system than yours will it clash with the lifestyle you lead?
It is beneficial to understand the different cultures and religions out there and how they could affect your own culture and belief system.
4. Friends & Family Influences On Your Relationship
Is it important that your friends & family like and accept your partner? Are you close enough with them that if they don’t it could drive a wedge in your relationship? How influential are your partners friends and family when it comes to the decisions he/she makes with you?
If you are looking for a family orientated match, how open are you to accepting your partners friends and family and the time you might have to commit to spending with them?
5. Relationships And Finance
Your financial status quite often depicts your lifestyle.
If you are in a high income bracket, the way you live your life including your hobbies and interests could very much conflict with someone in a low income bracket who can’t afford to do a lot of expensive dates, hobbies and travelling.
A lower income individual could be more into staying in on a Friday night cuddled up on the couch with a good movie whereas a higher income person may prefer to go out and attend concerts, dine at expensive restaurants etc.
When you pick a partner who is in the same income bracket there is less likelihood of developing a financially co-dependent relationship or having one partner resent the lifestyle & income of the other.
A superior/inferior complex will less likely develop if you enter the relationship with similar income brackets and lifestyles.
Hopefully this article gives you some insight as to what questions you should be asking when evaluating the potential of a new relationship. Remember all relationships require work. The success of your relationship depends on how much time and effort you are both willing to give. Good Luck out there!