Self-confidence is usually attributed to financial or social success, but it also plays a major role in how loving and healthy the relationships are that we develop. The lack of confidence is a disease that most of the time leads to toxic relationships and self-harming behaviours.
That’s why I believe it’s important for us to know and practice habits that boost the confidence we have in ourselves. This way, we will be more radiant and we will increase our chances to find that special someone who loves us for who we truly are.
When you are confident, you can be yourself without worrying too much about what others think of you, and that is exactly the attitude that makes you glow with your uniqueness.
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3 SIMPLE TIPS TO INCREASE YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE AND ATTRACT THE RIGHT PERSON
Tip #1: Know what you want
There is nothing sexy about being confused. And more importantly, you cannot be yourself if you don’t know who you are. Knowing what you want from life and from your relationship is an important element of your identity. Vague goals lead to vague results.
You must have clear goals regarding your emotional life:
- What you will accept in a relationship
- And what you will not accept under any circumstance
- What will make your relationship beautiful
- The qualities your special someone will possess
- And how they will treat you
Not setting conscious goals about how your relationship is going to look and how your special someone will be, will leave you vulnerable to unconscious patterns that are a product of the environment. That’s right! Not knowing what you clearly want will leave your brain open for any interpretation. It will take in anything that you watch and hear around you as a wish and attract you to it. And since beautiful and loving relationships are not that big of a trend, it’s not a way of living that you want.
Tip #2: Become emotionally independent
This might sound a bit counter-intuitive because being in a relationship involves the deepest and most vulnerable connection, but you need to be able to handle your own emotions.
Taking care of your own happiness and state of mind, helping yourself overcome obstacles, dealing with heartbreaks, and being responsible for what you think and feel, is the foundation of a strong and loving person.
You cannot love others until you love yourself, and loving yourself means that you are independently loving. If you depend on outside conditions to be happy, even if we talk about friends, family or pets, you will be constantly vulnerable and you will feel weak all the time.
A confident person loves from the bottom of their heart, but they get into relationships to give, not take. They share their own happiness and joy, they give without any expectation. They make their own happiness and don’t leave that burden on someone else’ shoulders since everyone is responsible to make themselves happy first.
Of course, you will want to have that special someone that loves you and tries their best to make you happy, but if you want to find him or her, you must be able to offer it yourself first.
Tip #3: Progress towards what you want
Don’t let heartbreaks from the past stop you from even trying. Take the necessary time to heal, but once you are strong, you should get back in the “game”, openly and trying your best to find your soulmate.
Happiness is nothing more than the realization or the progress towards the realization of your dreams. That means that the simple fact of trying to find your soulmate and slowly progressing towards this goal will make you feel good.
When you feel good … you are confident, you are attractive, you make smart choices, and you have more chances to take action and make it happen when the opportunity arrives.
These tips might sound too easy to be true, but most often common knowledge is not common practice. Little things that we do everyday, impact our lives and our results much more than big things that we do once in a while.
Gather your self-confidence, know what you want and go get it! There is a special someone that awaits and needs exactly the type of person you are.
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